Sunday, March 18

Closed for business :(

Well, the PC blew up (processor died) and as DH has decided to have an upgrade at the same time, its going to cost £200 to fix. £200 we dont have... However, we got the car back! Yay! Just need someone who isnt a criminal to BUY it from us rather than take us for a ride... then we will have the cash for the pooter.

Have also deemed Tiscali unfit to be an ISP - they have carried on billing me for the telephone service they havent given me, so I have refused to pay several bills, they have sent me several apologies promising they have fixed it, and then sent me more of the same crap. I've written to them saying I'm not paying a penny and I dont want their service any more if they dont know their arse from their elbow.

Lastly, today is mothers day.
  • no of mothers day cards received: 0
  • no of mothers day presents received: 0
  • no of people who have said happy mothers day to me: 1 (note - this was not my husband)

I am not a happy bunny. Write again soon when I have a PC.

Friday, February 23

Please sign the petition for cord blood donation

While I was pregnant with Amber, I found a link to have cord blood collected and stored on several sites, but none in the UK that allowed donation - only a cryo srvice that saved it for your child only, in case they needed the cells at a later stage. I wanted to donate to help to save someones life, or to contribute to the research to help potentially save lots of lives in the future.

A breif explanation of what cord blood collection is, and why it is useful:

Currently the donation of cord blood for the national register is only available at 5 Hospitals in the UK. Cord blood would usually be thrown away but it could be used to save someone’s life. It is rich in stem cells and it is these stem cells that can be used to treat patients suffering from life threatening diseases like leukaemia. A cord blood transplant is an alternative to using bone marrow. Collecting this blood will not affect your delivery in any way (more information available from the national blood service website). Currently for collection of cord blood at other UK hospitals,the donor would have to pay a substantial amount of money to a private organisation for the collection and storage of cord blood.That cord blood is only for personal use by the donor or their immediate family and is not available on the national donor register.

The link below is to a petition that asks the prime minister to make it possible to donate cord blood in every hospital, rather than only 5...

http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/Cord-Blood/

Thanks for reading, I hope that this gets through in time for when I have another baby - although I think it will be a few years yet!

Ta,
Lou
xXx

Saturday, February 17

I'm in a place called vertigo...

Yes, the dreaded vertigo has returned. And to those who do not know, no, its not fear of heights, thats 'Acrophobia'; I found a good description here:
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Vertigo is a false sensation of motion or spinning that leads to dizziness and discomfort.
So basically, I feel like I'm on the waltzer 24/7. This is particularly a problem where Amber is concerned. She likes to be rocked, bounced, lifted, swayed... in fact lifting her up and playing aeroplanes was what set this attack off. Grr. I hate my inner ear. I also have a chest infection so I'm on antibiotics for that. Only 4 doses left tho! I also seem to have a memory problem, as I start typing something and then forget it... Antibiotics make me tearful. Why is that?!
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Other news:
Lets have a game of good thing, bad thing!
  • Good: We sold the Rover!
  • Bad: Gareth gave it to the bloke on the promise of the money the next day...
  • Good: Its not taking up space in front of the local shops any more!
  • Bad: When we arrived to pick up the money from the bloke, we discovered he may have done a break and enter on the shop where he worked, and the safe which supposedly had the money he intended to give us has dissapeared and he is nowhere to be found...
  • Good: The police picked him and the car up!
  • Bad: They let him go, and they let him have the car back... he told them he'd given us some of the money...
  • Good: Um, thats it, I've run out of good stuff!
  • Bad: I've had to send him a letter giving him 2 weeks in which to return either the car or £400.00 cash to the local police station to be forwarded to us, or I will take him to court.

What the hell are the police thinking of to give him a car he doesnt own? We still have the V5 in my name and no money to show for the car... if they phoned the DVLA they would have been able to confirm that it was in my name and not his. The worst thing is, I'd saved, hard, to be sure that I could pay my credit card bills while I was on maternity. I took all my savings out to buy the Mondeo we bought to replace the Rover, and the money he was supposed to pay us for the car was going back into that. Also some of the money in my savings belonged to Amber - presents family and friends had given us, and I havent got around to setting up an account for yet, which really ticks me off - I felt bad about using that money anyway, without having some low life con me out of it. I really hope that he settles out of court, because I'm stressed enough as it is at the moment without this idiot creating more problems for me.

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The council have been in this week and put in a new kitchen and bathroom and i now have a lovely bath! The kitchen looks great too - or they would do if the tiling, painting and flooring was done... in true council style, they've done half the job and cant tell me when the rest will be completed. There is a huge hole behind my toilet, rubble under the bath, dust on EVERYTHING, plaster falling off the walls where the tiles were taken off, and NO DRAWERS IN THE KITCHEN! Where am I supposed to put cutlery, utensils, towels, and other kitcheny things? Argh!

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Argh! Not having a good week. Looking forward to not having vertigo (soon I hope) and Sam coming the week after next. Thats keeping me going - am hoping that I am well enough to go to Carole's 60th... Its ok. Gareths bought me a lindt rabbit so I feel better for having chocolate :)

Sunday, February 11

Gareths new job vs new kitchen and bathroom...

Yay! Gareth has a new job! Yay! Kitchen and bathroom are going to be done up!

Pity both of them start on the same day... :S

And its looking like me, Amber and Boxer are going to have to bunk up in the bedroom for 3 weeks - ouch!

More on the subject when I have time...

Sunday, February 4

Best buys for baby and me :)

This is the definitive list of things I wouldnt be without, with Amber... sure I'll probably add to it as she gets older and into different things, but for now, from newborn to 2 and 1/2 months this is it:

  • Loola travel system - front and back facing, and a car seat that fits straight on the chassis - and folds compact for small abodes and car boots!
  • Sleepsuits from Matalan - with fold over cuffs so you dont have to use scratch mits which fall off and get eaten by the sock monster...
  • Tescos value baby vests - 3 for £1.75 - unbeatable!
  • long sleeved bodies from H&M - popper up instead of having to pull it over baby's head!
  • Chicco mamma lullaby nightlight - the key to a good nights sleep! Comes on automatically when it hears baby cry! Priceless!
  • Muslins - cheapest found at Sainsbunnies, 3 for £3
  • Bambino Mio prefold nappies (and my new washer dryer) - but NOT bambino mio wraps - they die if they accidentally end up in the dryer! Motherease are better, but there are some others I was given that dont have labels in that are much better than either!
  • A salt lamp - great for lighting the room subtly when you have a sleeping baby in there and youwant to get ready for bed without disturbing her!
  • GR8X change bag - has a built in change mat, and folds out so that the pockets are either side of the mat. Handy!

Watch this space for more favourites...

Monday, January 29

Sleep training...

I just read this on the bounty forum, and I reckon Amber must have read it...!

Sleep training...

OK, here's my situation. My Mommy has had me for almost 7 months. The first few months were great - I cried, she picked me up and fed me, anytime, day or night. Then something happened. Over the last few weeks, she has been trying to STTN (sleep thru the night). At first, I thought it was just a phase, but it is only getting worse. I've talked to other babies, and it seems like it's pretty common after Mommies have had us for around 6 months. Here's the thing: these Mommies don't really need to sleep. It's just a habit. Many of them have had some 30 years to sleep - they just don't need it anymore. So I am implementing a plan. I call it the Crybaby Shuffle.

It goes like this:
Night 1 - cry every 3 hours until you get fed. I know, it's hard. It's hard to see your Mommy upset over your crying. Just keep reminding yourself, it's for her own good.
Night 2 - cry every 2 hours until you get fed.
Night 3 - every hour.

Most Mommies will start to respond more quickly after about 3 nights. Some Mommies are more alert, and may resist the change longer. These Mommies may stand in your doorway for hours, shhhh-ing. Don't give in. I cannot stress this enough: CONSISTENCY IS KEY!!If you let her STTN (sleep through the night), just once, she will expect it every night. I KNOW IT'S HARD! But she really does not need the sleep, she is just resisting the change. If you have an especially alert Mommy, you can stop crying for about 10 minutes, just long enough for her to go back to bed and start to fall asleep. Then cry again. It WILL eventually work. My Mommy once stayed awake for 10 hours straight, so I know she can do it. Last night, I cried every hour. You just have to decide to stick to it and just go for it. BE CONSISTENT!

I cried for any reason I could come up with. My sleep sack tickled my foot. I felt a wrinkle under the sheet. My mobile made a shadow on the wall. I burped, and it tasted like pears. I hadn't eaten pears since lunch, what's up with that? The cat said "meow". I should know. My Mommy reminds me of this about 20 times a day. LOL. Once I cried just because I liked how it sounded when it echoed on the monitor in the other room. Too hot, too cold, just right - doesn't matter! Keep crying!!

It took awhile, but it worked. She fed me at 4am. Tomorrow night, my goal is 3:30am. You need to slowly shorten the interval between feedings in order to reset your Mommies' internal clocks.

P.S. Don't let those rubber things fool you, no matter how long you suck on them, no milk will come out. Trust me.

Sunday, January 21

Busy Busy Busy!!!

Sorry its been so long since I posted. Obviously, I've had my hands full! Amber is getting bigger and more active and learning new things with every day, and she takes up all of my time! I managed to get her to bed at around 8ish tonight, and finally got her to sleep by about 9.30 (a whole hour earlier than last night!). She's going to be 9 weeks on Wednesday - where has the time gone?!

My new life as a Mummy has got nice and busy now! We have playgroup at St Marks church on Monday morning (the killer is it starts at 9.30 - ouch!), health visitor clinic on a Tuesday, Thursday is breastfeeding support group and every other Friday is rhyme time at the library!

Solved a mystery at rhyme time last Friday - met Louise and 5 month old Roxanna - who SO looks like her dad, Sam. Congratulations, if you ever read this! I knew they were expecting and I'd been asking around to see if anyone knew how things had gone for Sam and Louise, but no one seemed to know... but then they sat right behind me at rhyme time and we had a nice chat!



Speaking of community church, whats going on there then, eh? Louise said they are taking a break from their outreach... for those of you that do not know, the community church in Southampton has possibly the best outreach in Southampton. They really get involved in the community (hence the name I suppose!) and get the youth in the church via the big story. Recently, it seems that ALL outreach has stopped - they aren't even having a Sunday morning service! They have a fantastic event called the big story, which is a christian concert type thing for teens and anyone else who wants to go (me!) which my brother is very closely involved in. But they have cancelled it, and made people redundant, and not replaced it! Its a very popular event, how can they just cancel? It seems like the church leaders came in and went, 'well, everythings going fantasticly - how can we b*gger it up royally? I know, lets not do ANYTHING for ANYONE and have a bit of a break, and not let on when we are going to get things going again?' Its supposed to be so that they can figure out what outreach to concentrate on, but I worry about what people will do in the meantime without that outreach. Will they go elsewhere? If they end up at another church, fine, but if they end up giving up on Christianity altogether because the services they used aren't there any more, then that's bad.

Rant over, time for bed methinks! Amber will be waking up for her evening feed soon. Night night!

xXx

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Sleep tight, don't let the bed bugs bite!